Question: Why blame Sarah?

Genesis 16:1 Now Sarai Abram’s wife bare him no children: and she had an handmaid, an Egyptian, whose name was Hagar.

Genesis 16:2 And Sarai said unto Abram, Behold now, the LORD hath restrained me from bearing: I pray thee, go in unto my maid; it may be that I may obtain children by her. And Abram hearkened to the voice of Sarai.

Genesis 16:3 And Sarai Abram’s wife took Hagar her maid the Egyptian, after Abram had dwelt ten years in the land of Canaan, and gave her to her husband Abram to be his wife.

Genesis 16:4 And he went in unto Hagar, and she conceived………..

I heard a pastor preach a message recently and he made some statements which in my opinion was like laying the blame on the doors of Sarah for the entire religious “problem of the world”. In his own words: if Sarah hadn’t tried to “help God” to provide a seed for Abraham, then…………

So I began wondering why some people, perhaps even you, might want to blame Sarah for handing over her handmaid, Hagar, to her husband Abraham in her effort to bear him a child. I mean, what does anyone expect Sarah to do? turn herself into a son or daughter for her husband?

Under pressure and perhaps feeling guilty for not having borne Abraham any kids, she did the best she thought was possible – at that time. As a loving wife, she provided an alternative for her husband. Before we crucify Sarah, please give her a break and lets look at issues:

  • Did Abraham(with all due respect) commit any sin by accepting his wife’s gift and procreating through Hagar? No.
  • Was he guilty of fornication? No.
  • Was he guilty of adultery? No.

In the time Abraham lived, the social customs was permissive of Sarah’s action. By then, God hadn’t mandated a one-man and one-wife formula for mankind. She basically gave “what she had” to her husband. And the Bible doesn’t tell us Abraham showed any resistance or refused, and so it isn’t fair to say that Sarah is at fault, IMO.

But maybe the question we should ask is: why didn’t Abraham refuse to Sarah’s gift, considering he was the one given the promise directly by God.


Ayotokunbo Ajewole, an engineer, an avid writer, and blogger (a.k.a OmoJesus)

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