Years back it would have been a routine, a time to reunite with friends and family, create memories, eat and drink and relax. I may have been in the bridal train. But this last wedding hit home. I saw the whole ceremony in a new light, probably because I paid more attention to the service than before, and it made me conscious of the fact that I’ll be the one exchanging vows soon. I’ve read a number of books and I love happily ever after’s. I mean, who doesn’t? When I was little the stories of Cinderella, Beauty and the Beast and a number of other fairytales we read in school were stories I was familiar with. Growing older I realized the world of books and movies also portrayed such sweet life. Now I know the reality. It’s good to wish and pray for such but then one needs to realize that it takes more than that. I just want to share three things.
At this particular wedding, something in the sermon struck me. I think the book of 1 Corinthians 13 is read at all weddings but that day I realized that love completes you. The second verse emphasizes that if one has all and not love, that person is nothing. Without love we are incomplete. Of course we hear ‘love one another’, ‘one love’, and the occasional ‘I love you’ but do we really have love? God is love and unless we have God’s love dwelling in us we are nothing. But then God also gave us love in form of people. That’s where marriage comes in. We are given the gift of spending our lives with this one person. This person completes us here on earth. Though we are a couple, we are one. Two halves now whole. The first half of your life, you were single because you were involved in single things. Basically education and getting positioned into the world. But the next half, you need to be partnered because you’ll face more challenges. You can’t do it alone. I don’t think God wants you to face it alone. That day as I pondered on this in the service, I smiled. It was just beautiful.
Marriage is a beautiful thing, but it’s a job to keep it intact. I admire old couples. I believe the glue for lasting marriage is prayer. This was another limelight at the wedding. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been to a number of weddings and listened to sermons at the services and it’s not new. It’s just that I understand it better. Prayer is glue. It’s what helps the two halves stick together. This is because it connects them to the creator of the institution. That kind of connection is so vital because we’re students for life in the marriage institution. The importance of prayer can’t be overemphasized, whether it’s praising God for your spouse or lifting the person up to God or praying for light at the end of the tunnel. It’s the oil in the wheel, its glue.
Another limelight that day was the issue of faithfulness. It’s a choice. Whatever excuse you give for it, it’s a choice that was made consciously whether you think so or not. You choose to remain faithful to the person you vowed to. This vow was made before God. Now that is a real serious issue. God was there and you vowed to be loyal, faithful and everything the vow entailed and more. You said that and God stamped it. If you make a mistake, you have God and your partner to be accountable to. That is no joke. So if you choose to toy with this eternal vow before your maker, it’s your choice, not an accident.
I believe happy endings exist but its God that is the ‘happy’ factor. We all have our hopes and desires but its God who fulfills them. So I hope you ponder on the fact that love completes you, prayer is glue and faithfulness is a choice. Like my pastor said in one of his sermons, ‘don’t wait to be loved, show love. Your world reflects you.’ Love God and those around you. By doing that, you are being prepared to love the one that will complete you.